The Couples’ Guide to Hiring an Escort: FAQ and a Step-By-Step Guide to Booking Your First Threesome
Perhaps you stumbled here through an ‘escorts for couples Seattle’ or a ‘hiring an escort for a threesome’ google search - whether you’re looking to see a companion with your partner locally to dip your toes into spicing up your sex life or having one join you for a FMTY on a honeymoon or romantic vacation, the thought of finding a companion for you and your partner/spouse can be daunting.
I’m here to help 😊 I’m guessing you already know since you’re on my website, but if you came here directly from a google search- Hi, I’m Elle! I’m a blonde escort in Seattle in love with romantic sleepovers, tasty dinner dates, travel for two and have been seeing couples since 2018!
Much like I do in the rest of my ‘Client 101’ series (See Duos 101/FMTY 101/Gifting 101/Conventions Dates 101)
I’m going to break down hiring a companion for you and your partner step-by-step here:
Questions to ask to figure out if you’re ready
How to find the perfect companion for you and your partner
How to prepare
What to expect at the booking
Should you hire an escort for a threesome? Questions to ask yourself beforehand.
That answer is going to be different for every couple, and the question may moreso be are you ready to hire an escort for a threesome. Here’s a great blog post on Huffpost about why you should book one over going on dating apps or finding someone at a bar, but questions to consider:
Are you trying to ‘fix’ your relationship by bringing in a third? That’s a more complicated topic and may be better handled by focusing on yourselves and perhaps couples therapy.
Are both of you equally excited about this possibility? Hiring an escort as a ‘surprise’ for one party is a big no-no for multiple reasons- you should both be excited about this!
What do you want out of the experience? Is it wanting someone to share more extended out-of-the bedroom dates with?
If it’s sex-focused, what’s the focus? Maybe it’s for all of you to equally play together, for one person to watch the other two, or for one party to explore their bisexuality.
How to find the perfect escort for you and your partner:
If you don’t already have someone in mind (I nominate myself😝), many ad sites will let you filter results by ‘sees couples’ so that you only see companions open to meeting couples
If you will all three equally be playing together or this is focused on a female part of the couple exploring her bisexuality, make sure the companion mentions being open to seeing female clients and potentially her bisexuality in her profile. It doesn’t hurt to double check in your intro email either, as some people may not be bi but are open to seeing heterosexual couples in a ‘the female partner watches them with the male partner’ situation.
Check the rate for couples on her website. There may be an extra fee (you’re bringing a whole extra person to the equation, after all!) of either a flat rate or extra fee for each hour. Often people have minimum time lengths as well for couples so that you have extra time to go over logistics!
Know that you’ll both have to go through screening, not just one of you!
How to prepare for your booking:
Talk with your partner about boundaries you want to have during the experience- are certain types of touch with the escort okay and certain types not? How will you reassure each other during and make sure everyone is included?
Communicate in your intro email/beforehand to the escort what you’re looking for- do either/both of you have experience with bringing a third person into the bedroom? Is this for one person to explore and focused on their pleasure while the other observes, or equal sharing for all? (Do this in SFW language)
If you’re getting the hotel, make sure you get a room with a king sized bed for obvious reasons😝
Plan how you and your partner will decompress together after. There is often alot of nerves involved here and it’s important to make sure you have space after to have conversations around how you felt, things you loved and things you may want to do differently in the future, and focus back on each other for extra aftercare afterwards.
What to expect when you hire an escort for a threesome (at the booking):
You’ll likely spend some time together fully clothed just getting to know each other in a fully sfw fashion- this makes everyone more comfortable and at ease rather than diving right in! It’s nice if you book a dinner date so you can get to know each other over a meal as well.
In the bedroom, you’ll discuss logistics- boundaries, goals, etc
Have fun! (Some fun ideas can involve strip poker, sexy music and other things to help ease in or help with anxiety. You can share drinks or snacks like chocolate-covered strawberries!)
Cuddles and a kiss goodbye!